In the backyard of a luxury commune, slouched on the stones between a wood-barrel sauna and a cobalt blue Ping-Pong table, Logan Ury flicked fragments of acorns off her dress while the woman across from her recited her attachment style. A hot tub burbled in the background, where a string of fairy lights drooped between trees.
The woman said she was "avoidant," which was why she was single, why she had sought Ms. Ury's help.
Maybe the woman wasn't anxious, necessarily, Ms. Ury said; maybe she was getting in her own way, overthinking things. In Ms. Ury's words, the woman was her own "blocker." Ms. Ury suggested that since the woman tended to meet her past romantic partners in person, she should spend some of her limited free time bouldering, chatting with fellow climbers and scanning for potential love interests, instead of thumbing through the dating apps.
Ms. Ury, 34, is part of a long lineage of love experts who have built a dating pundit industrial complex. Of late, they have been joined by TikTokers and podcasters and Instagram infographic makers who churn out random dating "rules" — wait three hours before responding to a text, tell men they make you feel safe, curb every impulse to fight with your partner.
From The New York Times
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